Combating Negative Self Talk Ian Tomlinson

Negative Self Talk Common in many of my clients Yup – I have this too! It’s normal! You can change this! http://manchesterpsychotherapy.net

Where Does Negative Self Talk Come From? Experiences we had as children – we had to make sense of them and blaming ourselves made most sense Messages we got overtly or covertly from our care givers “You’re no good”, “You’re lazy”, “look how you’ve messed things up again” This information moves from external to internal and is replayed to yourself http://manchesterpsychotherapy.net

Great People to Read Check out what Claude Steiner has to say on Negative self talk http://claudesteiner.com/critic.htm http://manchesterpsychotherapy.net

Some Suggestions For Change - ACT ACT technique – defusion. This is where you separate yourself from your thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Read this post: http://manchesterpsychotherapy.net/how-to-reduce-anxiety/ “I notice that I’m thinking that I’m having the thought that I’m stupid – thanks for that brain!” http://manchesterpsychotherapy.net

Some Suggestions For Change – Positive Affirmations Positive self talk can be used as an antidote Look in the mirror and state clearly in the present tense “I am worthwhile” “I am loveable” Get ready for the negative self talk to click in - you can use defusion to ignore it http://manchesterpsychotherapy.net

Some Suggestions For Change - Therapy Therapy can be great for combating negative self talk You work with someone who knows how to spot it and will confront you You will be able to find out where it came from and this gives you choices – the choice to change You get to see how it kept you safe as a child http://manchesterpsychotherapy.net

Conclusions Negative self talk is very common You can change this You have power to change this yourself Working with a therapist can help greatly http://manchesterpsychotherapy.net

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